tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445655073643307949.post8260761206738210048..comments2023-05-09T21:14:27.329+10:00Comments on Pearl Meringue: Having a bad dayUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445655073643307949.post-53322706330682132022012-08-07T03:19:33.849+10:002012-08-07T03:19:33.849+10:00If they are coming over to 'help' then the...If they are coming over to 'help' then they should help you not help themselves......let them know you've made other arrangements next time and tell them why so they know they will miss out in the end......<br />Start out how you mean to go on......if they push you around over something this important (because they know you are struggling and need the routine) then they will always do exactly as they please.<br />The most important thing is that you and hubby are on the same page with whatever decisions you make......<br />If they're anything like my in-laws they will honestly think they don't have to listen to a word you say. Lucky hubby and I have formed a united front. I sincerely hope you have some luck negotiating this tricky situation......<br /><br />By the way, it's soooooooooo hard sometimes with a young baby especially when everyone else seems to be having a better time of it......<br /><br />Tania xxScandi Coast Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05039768799104337634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445655073643307949.post-1534385967576755642012-08-06T14:12:21.065+10:002012-08-06T14:12:21.065+10:00You poor thing. I think most of us have been there...You poor thing. I think most of us have been there and have a lot of empathy for you. Just wait until you tell the grandparents you don't want them to eat sweets and then find out that they have been sneaking them 'tastes' since 3 months old! I just put it down to absolute adoring love that only a grandparent can have for a child.BindiMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15724560536009416425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445655073643307949.post-64493845062842496722012-08-05T09:38:23.086+10:002012-08-05T09:38:23.086+10:00Hang in there sweetie, things will get better. Any...Hang in there sweetie, things will get better. Anyone who said having a baby was easy lies! Most important thing to remember is that you are the boss, you make decisions and you shouldn't feel bad letting people know that. If you can get some sleep you will feel much better. Big hugs to you for the week ahead. XTiffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17838629683557949718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445655073643307949.post-21056828886176401912012-08-04T16:34:55.457+10:002012-08-04T16:34:55.457+10:00How frustrating for you, nothing worse than an ove...How frustrating for you, nothing worse than an over-stimulated, over-tired bub to try to settle :( I agree with the suggestion above to perhaps try and time bub's awake time with him being looked after by others - I know it's not always possible but hopefully at least then you'll be able to have the quiet time when bub is sleeping when you return home and baby-sitters have left. I hope you don't have a repeat situation xAmandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14697932926715802541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445655073643307949.post-19736605825351499522012-08-04T13:24:41.960+10:002012-08-04T13:24:41.960+10:00It's very tricky to manage these sort of situa...It's very tricky to manage these sort of situations, I would also find it very stressful. Could you get hubby to have a word? could be done in a light heartened way to avoid confrontation.<br />Hope you manage to resolve things soon. <br />Catherine <br />new follower via FYBFCatherine Rodiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02893083162115591562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445655073643307949.post-33675106444138968822012-08-04T07:29:57.667+10:002012-08-04T07:29:57.667+10:00what a tough situation! sending you some sprinkles...what a tough situation! sending you some sprinkles!stephhttp://stephsjoy.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445655073643307949.post-91699373671919708022012-08-04T07:05:59.357+10:002012-08-04T07:05:59.357+10:00As a dad I can only help with what I've seen (...As a dad I can only help with what I've seen (not felt). The thing we tried to remember is that some people who had had their kids a long time ago had forgotten how hard it was and how valuable a bit of sleep was.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445655073643307949.post-25838984406364864822012-08-03T22:00:04.869+10:002012-08-03T22:00:04.869+10:00Ugh. So hard when you have to rely on in-laws to h...Ugh. So hard when you have to rely on in-laws to help out...and they do a lousy job. My anxiety levels would go through the roof too!<br />Hope things get better for you xGracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03191888392393911765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445655073643307949.post-66057188636723857312012-08-03T16:27:06.262+10:002012-08-03T16:27:06.262+10:00ohh I would be cross.. I wouldnt be asking her to ...ohh I would be cross.. I wouldnt be asking her to babysit again for a long while! hope you get some rest and feel better soon xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02519482775650749822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445655073643307949.post-28665892175972146582012-08-03T12:59:05.293+10:002012-08-03T12:59:05.293+10:00The only thing that worked for me (because my inla...The only thing that worked for me (because my inlaws although well-meaning, did the same thing) was to either put up with their 'rules' or not ask them to care for the baby. It was really hard, because I needed some help and time out, but in the end it was their way or no way. I chose 'no way' ultimately and found an alternative. It's really tough, isn't it? xworkingwomenaushttp://www.workingwomenaustralia.com.aunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445655073643307949.post-30369218687115970082012-08-03T12:52:47.768+10:002012-08-03T12:52:47.768+10:00My best advice would be to organise your day so th...My best advice would be to organise your day so that your baby is at his "awake & play time" when you need him looked after. At least he'll be tired by the time you get back for a feed, bath and cuddle. The in-laws will be exhausted too...lol. Just be firm and don't take any nonsense...he's your baby & your rules. If they don't like it then find another sitter who will listen. Their job is to be grandparents...not parents to your child. It's lovely to get help, I got none as my family live in QLD.<br />Best of luck with everything...you're a good Mum.<br />x MarnieMarniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09843750161832859526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445655073643307949.post-65046271215292656582012-08-03T12:47:30.629+10:002012-08-03T12:47:30.629+10:00A common dilemma. Grandparents are so excited they...A common dilemma. Grandparents are so excited they always go off and do what they want. I have given up. Hope things start looking up.Naomihttp://www.writeaboutme.com.aunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445655073643307949.post-39490045786028917592012-08-02T20:45:04.548+10:002012-08-02T20:45:04.548+10:00This comment has been removed by the author.Mother Down Underhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17646925050489695536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445655073643307949.post-58833875504378648912012-08-02T20:44:45.662+10:002012-08-02T20:44:45.662+10:00I know it probably doesn't mean much to hear s...I know it probably doesn't mean much to hear someone say it when you are in the midst of a day like this, but it gets easier...it really does.Mother Down Underhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17646925050489695536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445655073643307949.post-82752819362031303952012-08-02T18:00:34.886+10:002012-08-02T18:00:34.886+10:00Not an easy situation all I can think of is maybe ...Not an easy situation all I can think of is maybe having your partner talk to them and putting it as the instructions from the Mother and Baby unit not just your wishes may give it more authority, as for breastfeeding,yes it's nice to be able to but my Mum and I couldn't be closer and she wasn't able to feed me, there are lots of ways to bond and just holding him when he has a bottle is a lovely time to spend gazing into their little faces. I wish you both the best and look forward to following your progress.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03712903280765418441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445655073643307949.post-91210324717064536782012-08-02T12:47:45.321+10:002012-08-02T12:47:45.321+10:00You poor thing, it's not easy to keep everyone...You poor thing, it's not easy to keep everyone happy. But in this case, it's Bubby that comes first, and they are going to have to do the right thing by him. In the end, it's his routine they are stuffing up.<br /><br />I hope you are having a better day today.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01902751248204238565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445655073643307949.post-23055516516265232742012-08-02T12:27:40.953+10:002012-08-02T12:27:40.953+10:00can you take the baby with you? I somehow took ...can you take the baby with you? I somehow took my babies, wherever I went, let them nurse pretty much nonstop, but none ever heard them....good luck!!!!<br />I am your newest follower..pls follow back if you can.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445655073643307949.post-90873940112616954062012-08-02T09:58:49.406+10:002012-08-02T09:58:49.406+10:00I wish I had some advice on how to deal with your ...I wish I had some advice on how to deal with your in-laws, but fortunately it's not a situation I've had to deal with. All I know is that when I have to deal with "tricky" situations, I tend to use a little bit of humour to diffuse the awkwardness. Although, not knowing your Mother-in-law I don't know how helpful that advice is. (Humour is also most-likely the last thing from your mind if Bubba has been screaming for hours too!) My children's grandparents are too far away to help out with our kids often, but I think that because of this, the rare occasions that they have offered to help out, I've probably been so relieved to get a break, that I haven't paid much attention to what they are doing with the kids. However, as I said it isn't a regular occurrence so doesn't throw their routines out of whack. I hope you can find a solution because there are enough stresses raising a baby, without having to worry about the in-laws as well!<br />I hope Bubba is smiling now xxxSimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04337153605573459029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445655073643307949.post-42585710942381968852012-08-02T00:43:50.448+10:002012-08-02T00:43:50.448+10:00Oh dear, not a good situation at all. Nothing wors...Oh dear, not a good situation at all. Nothing worse than when babes are over-tired, it tips everything on it's head. I wish I had some advice on how to handle in-law's, but the truth is mine have never looked after our boys. Pretty unusual circumstances, but I just prefer it that way. My parents on the other hand have looked after the boys many times... they are fabulous though, I think sometimes when it's your own Mum and not a Mum-in-law, it's a more relaxed scenario. At the end of the day, he is your little bub and your wish should be their command... easier said than done of course.<br />Lovely to meet you Lisa, thank you for your comments on my blog, look forward to following along with your adventures xoAll For Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13151973819133926868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445655073643307949.post-54192352393896582502012-08-01T19:41:22.353+10:002012-08-01T19:41:22.353+10:00The only think I can think of is having your hubby...The only think I can think of is having your hubby say something to them and explain that as a result of disturbing his sleep he was very unsettled and they must let him sleep as instructed. <br />How often do they come over? I would suggest having them over so that they can see your routine. Letting them play with him when he is awake. <br />By the sounds of it they are just so over the moon about bubby they want to have some time snuggling and playing. Perhaps increase this time where they can then maybe they won't be so tempted to when they come over to babysit. <br />Don't give up. This is new learning for everyone. Persist with it for a while and see if they come around to how you do things. If it ends up that they won't listen after numerous attempts then consider other options. <br />Hope this helps! xNeenish Artshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07859749316448840174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445655073643307949.post-73656384943453779922012-08-01T19:05:16.866+10:002012-08-01T19:05:16.866+10:00My heart goes out to you, cranky babies are not fu...My heart goes out to you, cranky babies are not fun!<br />Not sure what you can do about your in-laws though, do you have someone else you can leave him with that will follow your instructions?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13683022126069845991noreply@blogger.com